It’s not the first time I’ve seen it, probably won’t be the last time, but I find myself once again standing on the outside watching a relationship slowly decombust. A very happy couple going way south. I believe it’s natural, it’s the way life is supposed to be. You’re not supposed to just find someone, fall hopelessly in love and everything works out in the end. I believe relationships are simply journies. Some people are meant to be with you longer than others and everyone pushes you further in your growth – even if they slow you down.
This said, I am kind of sad to watch this relationship end. Why? It started out as one of those “he/she completes me” relationships. The fluffy sentimentalism that is love. No, they don’t complete you – you complete you. God didn’t make half-a-person when he created you. He created you with a purpose, meaning and a life outside of someone else. Relationships,. especially the final comitted one, are not to be completion – they’re supposed to be companionship. Someone to prod you in your growth, someone to cheer you with your goals, someone to be there when everyone else walks out, someone to tell you that you’re an idiot and to love the devil inside of you. They are not supposed to make life better, they’re supposed to make life easier to bear.
I blanch whenever I hear women especially go on and on about relationships without much thought to their own unique calling and purpose. You were designed for so much more than an accessory at some guy’s home. Even if your purpose is to be a housewife – you are meant for a deeper meaning than wiping down cobwebs. My great-grandma Golda, a patron saint of housewives, had Bible studies at her home, mentored countless women and was “therapist/prayer warrior” for whomever came across her doorstep. In the very least your existance is define by so much more than your role. You are more than a wife, a lover, a friend – you are you… and there is no one else on this planet who can do what you can do.
Relationships fail. It’s part of human nature… part of sin… But thinking that some knight in shinning armor is going to be all for you… is just pure lunacy.
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Hey Tabz, about the whole complete thing, have you read this:
If the two becoming one flesh, isn’t about a person completing another, what is it about?